How to Shop for a Counselor

Couples counseling is quite different from many other services that a consumer might seek.  While an automobile repair is pretty straightforward, a counseling experience is not.  A couple looking for help will encounter a variety of approaches as they contact different therapists.  Or possibly a therapist who has not received specialized, couples therapy training and is flying by the seat of his or her pants.  A well-intended provider is not enough.

This presents a real challenge for clients who often don't know the right questions to ask, let alone the differences between the major couples theories.  I have presented some questions for couples seeking the help of a professional:

1. What theory or model do you use in couples counseling?

2. What post-graduate training have you received in couples counseling?

3. Can you summarize what it is you do to help couples overcome distress?

Additional research can be done on-line about the different theories described by therapists.  You can even see masters at work in youtube videos.  And given that picking a counselor is a major decision, it's helpful if a provider is willing to offer a phone consultation so clients can get a feel for his or her style and ask questions.  I feel this is something all providers should be willing to do.

Jason Trowbridge, therapist in Davis California